My MOM on My Big Question

Before we start,
MOM: Minutes of Mindfulness.

Okay.

To refresh everyone's memories, my BQ is "Why do we always have the feeling that we have to please others?"

Syllogism: From a young age we were shown that our worth came from others' approval and attention. When people don't feel worthy about themselves they look for acceptance from those around them, even if it's an exhausting thing to do. People do unimaginable things to please everyone in order to gain something from others that we can't get from ourselves, but what is it exactly?

What I got from my minutes:

• people always try to please others because they want to feel the satisfaction of being good enough
• society has made people fear that doing something good for themselves can be selfish
• people resort to doing good for others so that they aren't labeled as selfish
• when people please others and become addicted to it, they begin to lose self-acceptance and self-approval
• people simply want to please others just to avoid any problems or bad feelings ( peacefulness everywhere)
• what we gain from others that's terribly hard to gain from ourselves is acceptance, true satisfaction from within us, constructive criticism instead of harsh/hurtful suggestions, or simply just to fit in